If It Comes To Me, It’s Meant For Me

You know those moments when you start feeling disconnected or unhappy with your current situation, a job, a relationship, whatever? You start turning ideas over in your head about how to do something different because you realize you’re in a state of unease. Maybe you can’t pinpoint why or really what you want to do but you keep ruminating yourself into a scenario other than what’s in front of you. 

This is the stirring of purposeful change or divine discontent. 

I used to tell my kids to heed those sensations because that’s your soul telling you something is off balance, not aligning with who you are and it’s inviting you to create a more authentic way of life. Maybe not this second, but inevitably. Emotions usually manifest through our body long before we receive the understanding in our brain, becoming a visceral experience that speaks to us quietly, on a core level, not intellectually. These whisperings don’t always make sense and are often hard to identify because they’re intangibles that many of us tend to second guess. Those are the important nuances to learn to pay attention to, because they flow from a place of internal truth. Our compass. We live in a society of distraction, busyness and overthinking, leaving little room to hear the intuitive responses that our body shares with us. It has been my experience that when I lean into those feelings with trust I am never steered wrong. I may not be able to see the outcome or how I will achieve what I want, yet, with my whole heart I know that if something comes to me, it was meant for me. This has always proven to be true.

Of course, when you’re making a life change there are many factors to consider that require a plan, sacrifice and willingness to put forth the effort. However, it always starts with a Knowing that there is something else available to you. That’s not easy because it means stepping away from comfort or stability. Relationships, for example, have intricate entanglements that make change challenging, jobs offer financial security that can be hard to walk away from, and relocating to a new area means strange and unfamiliar territory. That’s all scary stuff. Though it is scarier when we live with the regret of a life unfinished. 

Recently, I have had more than one friend who has expressed disappointment with their current situation and it has propelled them toward making new choices. BIG, life changing, brave, uncertain choices at a time in their life when they were hoping for the ease of predictability. Each one began by feeling unsettled, wanting more, then listening to where their inner voice was guiding them. Once they took action the Universe met them with opportunities. That’s how this magic works. Whether you concede to it or not, every life altering shift begins inside of you first.

It took me years to fully recognize what my intuition was and that it is always reliable. It always knows, it’s always right and it counts on me to honor its wisdom. It shows up for the small things, big things and everything in between.

My decision in 2014 to relocate from Idaho, my home of 35 years, to North Carolina, came to fruition because I had a literal dream, a vision in my sleep that would be the catalyst for the most drastic, purposeful decision of my life. The Knowing came first, this soft nudging that there was something more I hadn’t imagined waiting for me. It spoke with gentle, consistent confidence, ebbing and flowing like a bright new idea in my head that came into laser focus when I woke from my dream. It was born on the heels of loss, pain, hope and was also a commitment I made faster than buying a pair of shoes. Because I felt it deeply, I trusted and I never looked back. I’m great at transition, change was all around me, I had nothing to lose so I was open to a new adventure although the path was unclear. 

The previous year I was very sick and had gone through a painful divorce, and my sister, who was my best friend at the time, invited me to come to Raleigh, get a clean slate and some much needed respite. It was tempting to start over and let someone take care of me, but I declined. I knew in my heart if I left then it would be running away. I had emotional work to do, and I’m not an avoider. What unfolded over the next 15 months would be some of the most difficult times of my life, a baptism of fire that I absolutely had to go through to find my way to closure, healing and growth, so I could own every part of my experience. What you don’t resolve, you take with you and I knew that. My dream was a culmination of what I already held deep inside and the hard work I had achieved. It affirmed to me that the possibilities of my life were boundless. When I eventually sold my belongings, packed what would fit in my car and drove across the country, it was a complete act of stepping forward, not running away. A gigantic leap of faith with no net that would never have happened if I hadn’t been prepared and paying attention. 

Our lives will constantly present us with situations that ask us to step out of our comfort zone and when we are faced with dissatisfaction in any part of our life, our intuition is the gift that will guide us. Like any skill we want to hone, we can choose to practice the art of listening to the most important voice we will ever hear, trusting that if it comes to us, it is meant for us.